LOVE IN ISLAM

"Love In Islam"

The meaning of 'True Love' continues to be sought and explored. Humans throughout the ages seemingly never tired of talking about it. Actually? what is 'True Love' and how the Islamic view about it?

Alhamdulillah, hopefully terlimpahkan sholawat and greetings to the Prophet Muhammad, his family and friends.
Communities in the outside world are currently being harassed by the myth of 'True Love', and lulled by dreams 'Sacred Love'. Therefore,-do, they prepare to celebrate the day of love
"Valentine's Day".
On this occasion, I do not want to invite you trace the history and chronology of this warning. And also do not want to talk about celebrations today follow the law.Because I'm sure you've heard and read much about it all. Only, I would like to invite you to a little dive: what is love? Is there true love and pure love? And love what model during this adorn your heart?
A researcher from Researchers at the National Autonomous University of Mexico reveal the results of his research was so surprising. According to him: A love affair doomed to saturation point, not only because of sheer boredom, but because the content of chemicals in the brain that activate a sense of love had run out. Sense of infatuation and love with someone will not survive more than 4 years. If you have 4 years old, love vanished, and the only remaining sex drive, rather than a pure love again.
According to him, feeling crazy in love appear at the beginning and expenses caused by the activation of specific chemical components in the brain, in the form of the hormone dopamine, endorphins, pheromones, oxytocin, neuropinephrine that makes a person feel happy, flowery and radiant. However, over time, and exposure to storms of life responsibilities and the dynamics of the effects of the hormones was reduced and then disappeared. (Source: www.detik.com Wednesday, 09/12/2009 17:45 pm).
Well, how tuh fate of this love for you crave from your partner? And what about the fate of your love to your partner? Do-do is gone and buried long ago.
You want to suffer due to no longer feel the beauty of love your partner and no longer enjoy the gentle cradle of love with him? Or do you want to continue to feel how beautiful love your partner and also how happy you love your spouse?
Brother, if you love your spouse because of beauty or good looks, so this time I believe the suggestion that he was the prettiest and most handsome, has faded.
When the first taste you love him because he is a man grow rich, then I'm sure at this time, his wealth is no longer spectacular in your eyes.
If you love spring because he was a dignitary and respected in the community, then the current position was no longer shining as bright as the first blinding your view.
My brother! if you are already bound in love with someone, but it is not your husband or your wife, it's good when you test the levels of your love. Get to know the extent of purity and sincerity of your love to him. Try to sit for a moment, imagine your lover in a state of peyot toothless, tattered clothes sitting in a rickety shack house. Will you still love the roaring sedahsyat you feel today?
The scholars 'history relates that one day, Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Bakr radhiallahu' anhu travel to Sham for trade. In the middle of the road, he saw a slender-bodied woman, beautiful and shapely bintu named Laila Al-Judi. Unexpectedly and mistaken, the arrow sped Laila romance and heart menghujam Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Bakr radhiallahu 'anhu. So since that day, Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu drunk heels in love, therefore, could not withstand the storm of romance to bintu Laila Al-Judi. So Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu often couple the Bair-stanza poem, to express the cry of her heart. Here in verse between the verses he had rope:
I always thought Laila which is across the country SamawahDuhai, what bintu Laila Al Judi affair with me?My heart is always clouded by the shadow of the womanParas face slalu shadowing my eyes and my inner inhabit.Duhai, when will I be able to see him,Hopefully along the pilgrimage caravan, he comes and I will meet.
Because so often he mentions the name Laila, to the extent that the Caliph Umar ibn al Khattab radhiallahu 'anhu felt sorry for him. So when he sent troops to subdue the country Sham war, he commanded the captains of war: when Laila Al Judi bintu including one of your war prisoners (so that a slave), then give it to Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu. And Subhan Allah, Allah taqdir after the Muslims overran the country Sham, Laila found one prisoner of war. So Abdurrahmanpun dream come true soon. Obey the Caliph Umar radhiallahu 'anhu, then Laila which has become a prisoner perangpun immediately given to Abdurrahman radhiallahu' anhu.
You can imagine how excited Abdurrahman, shoot love side dish arrived, the dream is really accomplished. Once his love Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu to Laila, to the extent that he forgot his other wives. Feeling not get a reasonable treatment, then his wives complained that another party to conduct Abdurrahman 'A'isha wife of the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam which is his biological sister.
Responding to reprimand her sister, Abdurrahman said: "Do not you see what a beautiful teeth, which like the pomegranate seeds?"
But not so long romance treat Laila Rahman, he struck a disease that causes the lips "Shining" (fall, so the teeth are always visible). Since then, love Abdurrahman fade and even disappear. When the first he had to forget about the other wives, so now she began to be extreme. Abdurrahman was no longer willing to look at Laila and always being rude to him. Unable to accept this treatment, Lailapun denounce her husband's attitude was to 'Aisha radhiallahu' anha. Laila received this complaint, then the 'Aisyahpun immediately rebuked his brother by saying:

يا عبد الرحمن لقد أحببت ليلى وأفرطت, وأبغضتها فأفرطت, فإما أن تنصفها, وإما أن تجهزها إلى أهلها, فجهزها إلى أهلها.

"O Abdur-Rahman, Laila loved you once and redundant in love. Now you hate and the hate excessive. Now, should you choose: You do justice to him or you return it to his family. Because urged by his sister so, then finally Abdurrahmanpun Laila repatriate to his family. (Tarikh Damascus by Ibn 'Asakir 35/34 & Tahzibul Kamal Al Mizzi 16/559)
How is my brother! You want to feel how bitter fate suffered by Laila Al Judi bintu?Or are you dreaming of a similar fate to that experienced by Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Bakr radhiallahu 'anhu? (1)
Do not be surprised if your ancestors have warned you to always be aware of this fact. They express this fact in the expression that is quite unique: The grass looks greener than the neighbors grass itself.
You're curious to know, why this fact happen?
Discover the secret to the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam following:

المرأة عورة فإذا خرجت استشرفها الشيطان. رواه الترمذي وغيره

"The woman is genitalia (must be covered), when he was he out of his house, then the devil will be impressed so pretty (in the eyes of men who are not mahram)." (Reported by At-Tirmizy and others)
The Arabs express this phenomenon by saying:

كل ممنوع مرغوب

Any such forbidden attractive (alluring).
Formerly, when the relationship between her forbidden in your religion, then the devil tried his best to obscure your vision and common sense, so that you are swept away by storm romance. Since you lost in a storm forbidden romance, then your eyes go blind and your ears become deaf, so you also a slogan: Love is blind. In Arabic proverb stated:

حبك الشيء يعمي ويصم

Your love for something, make you blind and deaf.
But after the relationship between you both have been lawful, then the devil spontaneous tabirnya parted, and the reverse direction. Satan no longer spread the veil in your eyes, the devil even tried to stem the storm of romance that has been raging in your soul. That's when you begin to discover the identity of your partner as it is. At that time you begin to realize that the relationship with your partner is not only limited to the affairs of the face looks, social status, possessions. You begin to realize that the husband-wife relationship was broader than just the face or the face position and possessions. What's more, Satan has reversed course, and try very hard to separate the both of you in divorce:

فيتعلمون منهما ما يفرقون به بين المرء وزوجه. البقرة 102

"So they learn from Harut and Marut (the name of two demons) that what they could divorce him (split) between a (husband) from his wife." (Surat al-Baqara: 102)
You may ask, then how should I behave?
Be reasonable and always use common sense and your conscience. Thus, the veil of romance does not make your vision blurry and you are not easily washed away by the crap lies and false promises.
Maybe you are again asked: If so, who actually deserve to get my sacred love? To whom should I love my tether strap?
Listen to the answer of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
تنكح المرأة لأربع لمالها ولحسبها وجمالها ولدينها, فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك. متفق عليه
"Normally, a woman was married for four reasons: because of their wealth, position, beauty and because of his religion. Thou shalt marry women who are religious, you shall be happy and lucky. "(Agreed alaih)
And in another hadith he said:

إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة فى الأرض وفساد عريض. رواه الترمذي وغيره.

"If there is a man of religion and akhlaqnya have you like, come to apply, then accept his proposal. If not, there will be turmoil and destruction of the earth. "(Reported by At-Tirmizy and others)
The love that grows as faith, charity pious, and noble morality, will always be in bloom. It will not be cracked by the sun, nor fade due to rain, and will not break even death have been picked up.

الأخلاء يومئذ بعضهم لبعض عدو إلا المتقين. الزخرف 67

"The people who (during the world) love each other on that day some of the enemies of one another except those who fear Him." (Surat Az Zukhruf: 67)
My brother! Love your boyfriend because of faith, charity and akhlaqnya pious, so that eternal love. Do not you crave the love that always adorn yourself if you should have entered into the grave and later resurrected on the Day of Resurrection?Would not you expect that your boyfriend is always loyal and love you even if you have old and even had inhabited the grave?
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

ثلاث من كن فيه وجد حلاوة الإيمان: أن يكون الله ورسوله أحب إليه مما سواهما, وأن يحب المرء لا يحبه إلا لله, وأن يكره أن يعود فى الكفر كما يكره أن يقذف فى النار. متفق عليه

"Three things, if all three exist in a person, he undoubtedly felt the sweetness of faith: If Allah and His Messenger more than he loved apart from both, he loves someone, he does not love him except for God, and he hated to return to kufr after God saved him, like his hatred if you want pushed into the flames. "(Agreed alaih)
My brother! just love that blossomed because of faith and morality that mulialah sacred and true. This love will be eternal, timeless wind or sunlight, nor fade due to pouring rain.
Yahya bin Mu'az said: "Love for God will not increase just because the one you love to do good to you, and will not be reduced because he was rude to you." That is because your love grows blossomed because of the faith, pious and charitablenoble morality, so that when the faith of the person you love does not grow, then love you also will not increase. And conversely, if the faith of the person you love is reduced, then love you also helped reduced. You love him not because of the material, rank or position of a handsome face, but because he was faithful and noble berakhlaq. This is the eternal holy love my brother.
My brother! after you read this simple, let me ask: Is it true that you love the sacred?Is it true your love is true love? Prove my brother ...
Wallahu a'alam bisshowab, sorry if there are words that are less pleasing or offensive.
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Ustadz Muhammad Arifin Badri, M.A.Republished from www.pengusahamuslim.com
Footnote:
1) My brother, after reading the love story of Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Bakr Companions of this, I hope you did not comment or say anything bad about a friend Abdur-Rahman bin Abi Bakr. Because he was one of the companions of the Prophet, so you should have the honor guard. As for the error and oversight that happens, then it is not unusual, because he is also human, fallible and may err.Good deeds of the Companions of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, so much so that it will cover kekhilafannya. Do not you feel that yourself better than anyone let alone to cause you taunted him because of an oversight that he did.Mentioned in one atsar (words of a cleric 'earlier):

من عير أخاه بذنب من عابه به لم يمت حتى يعمله

"Anyone who reproached his brother for a sin he did, is not he dead to fall into the same sin."