true love in islam

The meaning of 'True Love' continues to be sought and explored. Humans throughout the ages seemingly never tired of talking about it. Actually? what is 'True Love' and how Islam views on it?

Alhamdulillah, sholawat and greetings to the Prophet Muhammad may terlimpahkan, family and friends.

Community in any hemisphere is currently being harassed by the myth of 'True Love', and lulled by dreams 'Sacred Love'. Therefore,-do, they prepare to celebrate the day of love "Valentine's Day".
On this occasion, I do not want to invite you trace the history and chronology of this warning. And also do not want to talk about following the law of this celebration.Because I'm sure you've heard and read about it all. Only, I would like to invite you to delve a little: what is love? Is there true love and pure love? And love the model of what has been graced your heart?
A researcher from Researchers at the National Autonomous University of Mexico revealed the results of his research was so surprising. According to him: a love affair doomed to a saturation point, not only because of sheer boredom, but because of the chemicals in the brain that activate a sense of love had run out.Sense of infatuation and love the person will not last more than 4 years. If it was 4 years old, love vanished, and the only remaining sex drive, rather than a pure love again.
According to him, feeling crazy emerged in the early fall in love and spending caused by the activation of specific chemical components in the brain, in the form of the hormone dopamine, endorphins, pheromones, oxytocin, neuropinephrine that makes one feel happy, flowery and radiant. However, over time, and exposure to storms and responsibilities of the dynamics of the effects of the hormones were diminished and disappeared. (Source: www.detik.com Wednesday, 09/12/2009 17:45 pm).
Well, how tuh fate of this love that you yearn for from your partner? And what will happen to your love for your partner? It could be is gone and buried long ago.
Miserable because you no longer want to feel the beauty of love your partner and no longer enjoy the gentle cradle of love with him? Or do you want to continue to feel how beautiful love your partner and also how happy you love your spouse?
Brother, if you love your spouse because of beauty or good looks, so this time I believe the notion that he was the most beautiful and handsome, has faded.
When the first taste you love him because he is a man grow rich, then I'm sure at this time, his wealth is no longer spectacular in your eyes.
If you love blossomed since he was a noble and respected in the community, then this position is no longer shine as bright as the first blinding your view.
My brother! if you are already bound in love with someone, but it is not your spouse, it helps if you examine the content of your love. Get to know the extent of purity and sincerity of your love to him. Try to sit for a moment, imagine your lover in a state of peyot toothless, tattered clothes sitting in a rickety shack home.Would love to still roaring sedahsyat you feel today?
The scholars 'history relates that one day Rahman bin Abi Bakr radhiallahu' anhu traveling to Sham for trade. In the middle of the road, he saw a slender-bodied woman, beautiful and shapely bintu named Laila Al Judi. Without thought and thought, love arrows shot and pierced through the heart Laila Rahman bin Abi Bakr radhiallahu 'anhu. So since that day, Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu drunk deeply affected, therefore, could not withstand the storm of romance to bintu Laila Al-Judi. So Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu often couple the Bair-stanza poem, to express the cry of her heart. The following verses of the poem that he had the chain:
I always thought that Laila is across the country SamawahDuhai, what bintu Laila Al Judi affair with me?My heart is always clouded by the shadow of the womanParas face slalu shadowing my eyes and thought to inhabit.Duhai, when will I be able to meet her,Hopefully along the pilgrimage caravan, he comes and I will meet.
Because so often he referred to the name Laila, to the extent that the Caliph Umar ibn Al Khattab radhiallahu 'anhu felt sorry for him. So when he sent troops to subdue the country Sham war, he commanded the captains of war: when Laila Al Judi bintu including one prisoner of wars (thus becoming a slave), then give it to Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu. And Subhan Allah, Allah taqdir after the Muslims overran the country Shaam, Laila found one of the prisoners of war.Abdurrahmanpun dream come true so soon. To obey the Caliph Umar radhiallahu 'anhu, then Laila who has been a prisoner be given to Abdurrahman perangpun radhiallahu' anhu.
You can imagine how excited Abdurrahman, the top side dish comes love, dreams really happen. So love Abdurrahman radhiallahu 'anhu to Laila, to the extent that he forgot his other wives. Was not a reasonable treatment, then the wives complain about the behavior of another party Abdurrahman told 'Aisha wife of the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam which is the biological sister.
Responding to reprimand her sister, Abdurrahman said: "Do not you see how beautiful teeth, which like the pomegranate seeds?"
But not so long ago romance Laila Rahman treat, he replaced a disease that causes lips "Shining" (fall, so that his teeth are always visible). Since then, Abd love fade and even disappear. When the first he had to forget about the other wives, so now she began to be extreme. Abdurrahman was no longer willing to look at Laila and always being rude to him. Could not receive this treatment, the attitude of her husband complaining Lailapun this to 'Aisha radhiallahu' anha.Laila got a complaint, then the 'Aisyahpun immediately rebuked his brother by saying:
يا عبد الرحمن لقد أحببت ليلى وأفرطت, وأبغضتها فأفرطت, فإما أن تنصفها, وإما أن تجهزها إلى أهلها, فجهزها إلى أهلها.
"O Abdurrahman, once you are in love with Laila and excessive love. Now you hate and hate excessive. Now, should you choose: You do justice to him, or you return it to his family. Because it was urged by his sister so, then finally repatriated Abdurrahmanpun Laila to her family. (Tarikh Damascus by Ibn 'Asakir 35/34 & Tahzibul by Kamal al-Mizzi 16/559)
How my brother! You want to feel how bitter fate suffered by Laila Al Judi bintu?Or do you dream of a fate similar to that experienced by Abdurrahman ibn Abi Bakr radhiallahu 'anhu? (1)
Do not be surprised if your ancestors have warned you to always be wary of this fact. They express this fact in a phrase that is quite unique: The grass looks greener than the neighbors grass itself.
You're curious to know, why this fact happen?
Discover the secret to the words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam following:
المرأة عورة فإذا خرجت استشرفها الشيطان. رواه الترمذي وغيره
"She is aurat (must be covered), when he was he out of his house, then the devil will be impressed so pretty (in the eyes of men who are not mahram)." (Reported by At Tirmizy and others)
Arabs express this phenomenon by saying:
كل ممنوع مرغوب
Any such forbidden attractive (alluring).
Formerly, when you are with her illicit relationship between the religion, the devil tried his best to obscure your vision and common sense, so you are swept away by storm romance. Since you lost in the storm forbidden romance, then your eyes go blind and your ears become deaf, so you also a slogan: Love is blind. In Arabic proverb stated:
حبك الشيء يعمي ويصم
Your love for something, make you blind and deaf.
But after the relationship between the two of you have been lawful, the demons pushed tabirnya spontaneous, and reversed course. Satan is no longer spread the veil in your eyes, devil even tried to stem the raging storm that has romance in your soul. That's when you begin to discover the identity of your partner as it is. At that time you begin to realize that the relationship with your partner is not only limited to the face looks affairs, national or social origin, property. You begin to realize that the husband-wife relationship was broader than just the face or the face position and possessions. What's more, Satan has reversed course, and try very hard to separate the two of you in divorce:
فيتعلمون منهما ما يفرقون به بين المرء وزوجه. البقرة 102
"So they learned from Harut and Marut (the name of two demons) that what they could divorce him (split) between a (man) from his wife." (Surat Al-Baqarah: 102)
You may ask, then how should I behave?
Be reasonable and always use common sense and your conscience. Thus, the veil of romance does not make your vision blurry and you can not easily washed away by the lies and nonsense of false promises.
Maybe you re-ask: If so, who actually deserve to get my sacred love? To whom should I love my tether strap?
Refer to the answer of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam:
تنكح المرأة لأربع لمالها ولحسبها وجمالها ولدينها, فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك. متفق عليه
"Normally, a woman may be married for four reasons: because of their wealth, position, beauty, and because of his religion. You should marry the religious woman, you shall be happy and lucky. "(Agreed alaih)
And in another hadith he said:
إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة فى الأرض وفساد عريض. رواه الترمذي وغيره.
"If there is a religion and has akhlaqnya you like, come to apply, then accept his proposal. If not, there will be turmoil and massive destruction on earth. "(Reported by At Tirmizy and others)
The love that grows as faith, charity pious and noble morality, will always bloom.Not be cracked by the sun, nor fade due to rain, and will not break even death have been picked up.
الأخلاء يومئذ بعضهم لبعض عدو إلا المتقين. الزخرف 67
"People who (during the world) love each other on that day in part be foes one to another except the pious." (Surat Az Zukhruf: 67)
My brother! Love your lover by faith, pious and charitable akhlaqnya, that eternal love. Do not you crave the love that always adorn yourself even though you have entered into the grave and later resurrected on the Day of Resurrection? Would not you expect that your boyfriend is always loyal and love you even if you have elderly and even had inhabited the grave?
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
ثلاث من كن فيه وجد حلاوة الإيمان: أن يكون الله ورسوله أحب إليه مما سواهما, وأن يحب المرء لا يحبه إلا لله, وأن يكره أن يعود فى الكفر كما يكره أن يقذف فى النار. متفق عليه
"Three things, if all three exist in a person, he undoubtedly felt the sweetness of faith: If Allah and His Messenger more than he loves apart from them, he loves someone, he does not love him except for God, and he hates to return to kufr after God saved him, like his hatred if you want pushed into the flames. "(Agreed alaih)
My brother! just love that blossomed because of faith and morality that is holy and true mulialah. This love will be eternal, timeless wind or sunshine, nor is faded because pouring rain.
Yahya bin Mu'az said: "Love for God will not increase just because the one you love to do good to you, and will not be reduced because he was rude to you." That is because you love to grow blossomed because of the faith, pious and charitablenoble morality, so that when the faith of the person you love does not grow, then you also will not grow in love. And conversely, if the faith of the person you love is reduced, then love you also helped reduced. You love him not because of the material, position or rank of a beautiful face, but because he was faithful and noble berakhlaq. This is the eternal holy love my brother.
My brother! simple after you read this, let me ask: Is it true that you love the sacred? Is it true your love is true love? Prove my brother ...
Wallahu a'alam bisshowab, sorry if there are words that are distasteful or offensive.
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Cleric Muhammad Arifin Badri, M.A.Republished from www.pengusahamuslim.com
Footnote:
1) My brother, after reading a love story Rahman bin Abi Bakr Companions of this, I hope you did not comment or say anything bad about a friend Abdurrahman ibn Abi Bakr. Because he was one of the companions of the Prophet, so have the honor to be your case. As for the error and oversight that happens, then it is not unusual, because he's also human beings, could be wrong and can make mistakes. Good deeds of the Companions of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam so much that it will cover kekhilafannya. Do not let you feel yourself better than anyone let alone to cause you to sneer at as an oversight that he did.Mentioned in one atsar (words of a scholar 'earlier):
من عير أخاه بذنب من عابه به لم يمت حتى يعمله
"Whoever is criticizing his brother for a sin which he did, he was not dead to fall into the same sin."